Archive for August, 2006

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Okay, I’m beeing too dramatic. But Still.

August 31, 2006

“One by one, free lands in Middle-Earth fell to the power of the Ring. But there were some who resisted. A Last Alliance of Men and Elves marched against the armies of Mordor and on the slopes of Mount Doom, they fought for the freedom of Middle-Earth.” – The Fellowship of the Ring

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Birth Family Background Information (Part 2)

August 30, 2006

CIRCUMSTANCES OF PLACEMENT AND/OR OTHER SIGNIFICANT INFORMATION

The birth mother first contacted Los Angeles County department of adoptions by telephone to set up an appointment to set up adoptive planning for the baby she was expecting in three months. She was 16 years old, very bright with an IQ of 118 and very attractive. “She has lovely features. She has large hazel eyes, a very clear complected skin and light brown hair that she wears very short and simply. She is also tall and has a slim, shapely figure.”

At the time of the initial interview, the birth mother was caring for her 13 year old brother and her 9 year old brother who was neurologically handicapped as well as two neighborhood children who were 3 or 4 years old and from her mother’s day care home. Her mother (maternal grandmother) was out of town and had left her with the responsibility for her brother and the day care children. It was difficult for the birth mother to focus on adoptive planning when the children were running in and out during the interview.

The birth mother felt that she was too young to take care of a baby at this time in her life. She did not marry and said she could not visualize being the mother of a child and providing proper care. Even though her mother did not directly discuss her pregnancy, the birth mother felt she was aware of her situation but did not want to influence her decision. She began to cry because her mother was failing to provide her with any direction by her avoidance of a frank and direct discussion. The atmosphere in the home was stressful.

The adoption worker explained the services available. And the process involved in adoptive planning.

In terms of background, the birth mother never knew her own father. She was told that he died when he was in the service in Korea while her mother was pregnant with her. Her mother had at least three marriages and four children from four different men. her mother relied on her quite a bit and she assisted her mother with the child care and baby-sitting at the daycare her mother ran.

The birth mother stated that her long-time boyfriend, age 17, was the birth father of the child she was expecting. He was the son of a doctor and his ethnicity was Irish and Scottish. She described him as agnostic. He was aware of his girlfriend’s pregnancy but did not want his parents to learn of his condition. He and the birth mother appeared to have a good relationship and confided in one another easily. They had known each other for the last two years and dated for the last year. He admitted to using drugs such as marijuana and LSD and felt that it was preferable to alcohol. He did seem concerned about the birth mother and the baby but stated neither one of them had considered marriage even though they cared about one another. He felt they were really too young to become parents and he supported the adoption plan.

The birth mother wanted to enter a maternity home and was admitted to Booth Memorial Maternity Home. There was a new adoption worker for the birth mother after her admission and in late august 1968, she interviewed the birth mother at the maternity home. She described her as “…a lovely looking girl with large hazel eyes, long straight blonde hair which is slightly tinted, a heart-shaped face, and a good complexion.” She thought the birth mother was extremely intelligent interesting and articulate who enjoyed analyzing people and situations.

The birth mother enjoyed talking to the birth father and her mother but she did not have many girlfriends. She thought of herself as a loner who enjoyed reading and who hoped to be a social worker or a teacher. She was close to one of her teacher and would visit her teacher and his wife. The birth mother smoked marijuana regularly, particularly if she were nervous. She had been on probation for smoking marijuana.

After your birth, you were given a name and your birth mother visited you in the nursery and had a chance to hold you. You were a very cute baby with sparse blonde hair flat ears and had no medical problems. She signed the under care papers which allowed the adoption agency to place you temporarily in foster care and indicated that she would call to arrange signing the relinquishment in a few weeks.

Three weeks later, the birth mother met with the adoption worker to discuss keeping you. She explained that her birth mother planned to marry again, was cutting down on her day care responsibilities and wanted her daughter to keep the baby so that the maternal grandmother could raise him and give her new husband the experience of parenting a baby. The birth mother was not strong enough to pursue adoptive planning when her mother opposed it even when she felt it unhealthy for herself and her baby. She had broken off with the birth father, had a new boyfriend and had changed schools.

The maternal grandmother contacted the adoption worker and indicated that she wanted her daughter to complete her education so she would be willing to take care of the baby for the next two or three years. She also planned on marrying in the next few months and would let people outside of the family believe that the baby was either adopted she and her husband had produced.

You were returned to the home of your birth mother on 10/31/68. She had come to the agency with her mother and prospective step-father and did not appear happy with the plan.

to be continued…

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Birth Family Background Information (Part 1)

August 30, 2006

This is the first part of a document titled ” Birth Family Background Information” that I just received in the mail the other day. A lengthy narrative entitled “Circumstances of placement and/or other significant information” makes up the second part. I will post it soon.

BIRTH INFORMATION

Adoptee: Scott Feldstein
Date and time of birth: October 4, 1968; 6:26pm

Place of birth: Booth Memorial Hospital, 2670 Griffin Avenue Los Angeles, California

Measurements:
Weight: seven pounds and one-half ounces
Length: Twenty and one-half inches
Head: Thirteen inches
Chest Thirteen inches
Abdomen: Seventeen inches

Condition at birth: Baby was born full term after a labor of five hours and twenty-nine minutes. Apgar score was nine out o a maximum of ten in the delivery room. Respiration was spontaneous and there was some cyanosis in baby’s extremities. Condition was good with no injuries or anomalies noticed. During hospital stay, baby was circumcised.

BIRTH MOTHER

Ethnicity/Race: German, English/Caucasian

State of Birth: Tennessee (Whoa. This will be extremely helpful! SF)

State of Residence (at the time of birth): California

Age (at the time of birth): 16 years old

Religion: Agnostic

Education: 10th grade

Occupation: student

Marital status: single

Physical description: 5’6″ tall, weighed 120 pounds, light brown hair, large hazel eyes and an oval-shaped face with a fair complexion. Slim body type.

Special interests: reading about medicine and history; interested in psychology and sociology

Health: good

MATERNAL RELATIVES/OTHER CHILDREN

Maternal grandmother (birth mother’s mother): MGM was 35 at the time of baby’s birth. She was 5’5″ tall, weighed 125 pounds and had brown hair and eyes. She operated a day care facility in her home.

Maternal grandfather (birth mother’s father): MGF had been a Merchant Marine (what’s a merchant marine? SF) and was killed during the Korean War. He had a solid build, was 5’8″ tall, and had black, curly hair and blue eyes.

Maternal aunts and uncles (birth mother’s sibling(s)): None

Health: Nine year old brother was born with brain damage causing him to be handicapped neurologically and on dilantin and other medications. (This explains why she ran a day care. SF) There was an adult onset asthma on both sides of birth mother’s family.

BIRTH FATHER

Ethnicity/Race: Scottish, Irish/Caucasian

State of birth: Massachusetts (Another great new piece of info! SF)

State of residence (at the time of child’s birth): In US Army and stationed in Vietnam (I didn’t know that. SF)

Age (at the time of child’s birth): 17 years old (Can you be in the Army at 17? SF)

Religion: Jewish (WHOA! SF) family background but he was agnostic

Education (highest grade completed): high school graduate

Occupation: Merchant Marine (What’s a merchant marine?? SF)

Marital status: Single

Physical description: 6’2″ (the first person taller than me in the whole bunch! SF) 190 pounds, light brown hair, blue eyes and fair, freckled complexion. Slim body build.

Special interests: Sailing, surfing, guitar (nice! SF), singing and writing songs and enjoyed skin diving.

Health: good

PARENTAL RELATIVES/OTHER CHILDREN

Paternal grandmother (birth father’s mother): PGM was 45 years old at the time of baby’s birth and had two years of college and was a full time housewife. She was 5’7″ tall, average build, had auburn hair, blue eyes and a fair complexion.

Paternal grandfather (birth father’s father): PGF was 48 years old at the time of baby’s birth. He was a medical degree and was an anesthesiologist. He was stocky, stood 5’10” tall, had light brown hair, blue eyes and a fair complexion.

Paternal aunts and uncles (birth father’s sibling(s)): Birth father had two younger brothers who were 15 and 13 years old.

Siblings (birth father’s other child(ren)): None

Health: PGM had her thyroid removed in 1962

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New Information

August 29, 2006

August 24, 2006

Dear Mr. Feldstein,

Thank you for your patience and for providing a copy of your driver’s license as verification of your identity. I am enclosing a copy of the background information you requested. A copy of the medical information from the adoption case is also included, as well as a copy of the pamphlet (‘Your Very Own’) which was given to your adoptive parents at the time of your adoptive placement.

Although I have not heard from your birth family members, you may want to file a consent for contact, which I have also included. You will need to have this form notarized and then you may return it to me at any time in the future; once I receive it, your case will be re-ordered so that the consent can be filed in your case. If we should hear from your birth family members and they file notarized consents, then Post Adoption Services would be able to place you in touch with one another.

Please keep our agency (PAS) informed of your current address and/or phone number so we can reach you should the need arise.

I hope this information helps you understand the reasons for your adoptive placement, what your birth mother was like and what her feelings were during the time she was involved with our agency. If there is anything I can do to assist you now or in the future, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

Sincerely yours,
(name omitted)
County of Los Angeles
Post Adoption Services

Details as soon as I can type them all!

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Guns: I Changed My Mind

August 28, 2006

I changed my mind. I used to say that I would never carry a firearm. But that was before these!

No threat can get past my MANMELTER 3600ZX!

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When Did Harris Jump The Shark?

August 27, 2006

She told a periodical that such a separation is a “lie” because, as she put it, “God is the one who chooses our rulers.”

Harris said God and the nation’s founding fathers did not intend the country be “a nation of secular laws.” – nbc6.net

Surely no one will rise to defend such lunacy.

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Relax. The economy is doing great. Go back to sleep.

August 27, 2006

Real Wages Fail to Match a Rise in Productivity – New York Times
wages and salaries now make up the lowest share of the nation’s gross domestic product since the government began recording the data in 1947, while corporate profits have climbed to their highest share since the 1960’s